Friday, May 21, 2010

Thunderstorm at the Duck Pond

It's raining here today in the usually sunny South. But that's not what is making me so gloomy. It's the raining inside my house that is making things dark and somber. I cannot quit crying.



All my life I wanted a brother sister. (Yeah, I was a tomboy growing up.) I had step and half siblings, but I didn't live with any of them. When I was 10, my parents started a children's home. So I had kids in my house all the time, but they came and went. We still keep in touch with many of them. I am close to a few. But I always wanted that close relationship that could make you want to snap someone's neck off one moment and move mountains for them the next that siblings have. So what did I do? I married a man with two brothers and two sisters. I adore his siblings. I am envious of enjoy the closeness they have with each other. One of his sisters moved out here  from Texas. I consider her MY sister.

One Thanksgiving many years ago after the prince and I were first married, we went to spend the week in Texas. We made the rounds seeing family and friends. We were able to spend time with the prince's brother, Bill at his new restaurant. He was so happy and full of life. He had reached his ultimate goal and was doing very well. Bill was on top of the world. Less than two weeks later my prince got the most devastating call he had ever taken. Bill was gone. Just like that. Ripped from our lives....leaving behind a wife and a three year old son. He was 28 years old....

Having a young loved one ripped from your life like that is horribly devastating. Though the daily pain of Bill's loss has dulled, I still cry for him from time to time.

Daffy from Batcrap Crazy is dealing with the loss her sister. Just a few days ago she was tweeting funnies from the hospital with her sis. I was thinking how awesome she was to keep her sister's spirits up by finding humor in the ridiculousness that they were seeing all around. That kind of love and support is vital when dealing with situations like this. I am now thinking about how fortunate they were to have each other. Even though the pain is enormous right now....

At some point way down the line when Daffy thinks of her sister, she will not cry. She will laugh and smile and focus on all the fun times. I wish I could wave a magic wand and get her to that point sooner. But then again, you cannot ever truly appreciate joy and happiness without pain and sadness.

Please go show Daffy your love and support. You have no idea how much your thoughtful words mean.

wtfo

And please consider the gift of organ donation. One loss can spare so many other people of the same fate. It's a simple gift with extraordinary outcomes.


25 comments:

Adrienne said...

=(

Jeannie, Jane, Angel, Mommy, etc.. said...

I applaud you for adding the line about organ donation. This is a cause that is so very close to my heart. Had it not been for someone's generosity, my little Monkey would not be here today. We will be keeping Daffy in our thoughts. Remember that through Organ donation, your loved ones live on and create their own legacy through someone else. *hugs*

GunDiva said...

I just left some love at Daffy's Pond. Poor kid, I can't imagine.

Thanks for posting this.

Menopausal New Mom said...

Beautifully written Sweetie! Such a heartfelt post. I too lost a sibling who was full of life and should have had the world at his feet, he was only 32 and left behind a darling little 3 year old.

Time does not heal all wounds, the scars last a lifetime but you're right, at some point Daffy will be able to think of her sister without tears but the scar remains forever. Life is never the same again.

My heart goes out to anyone who has endured such a loss.

Thank you again for writing this, I too found comfort in your words.

Hugs,
Deb

SupahMommy said...

sad
so sad for all the loss we all have to experience to be able to write these beautiful posts.

purseblogger said...

This is beautiful. Saying prayers for Daffy.

adrienzgirl said...

I just cannot keep it together. This was beautiful Princess! The Duck will love it for sure. She's hanging in there! :(.....

singedwingangel said...

So much I want to say to Daffy and yet I cannot find a way to put the words together tomake sense.. Just heart broken for her..

The Manic Mommy said...

That was beutiful Princess - my heart goes out to Daffy, its really sad about whats going on, time is the best medicine and knowing that you have a great support system that understands the pain you are going through. I lost someone very close in '97, he was only 23 when he was killed in an USCG accident, it was extrememly hard, and still is at times. But it does get better. You are a great friend to post something like this!

*LLUVIA* said...

sad for Daffy...sad sad sad...

Evonne said...

It is so hard to deal with someone being ripped from your life. My post today was about the loss of my dad.

I'm heading over to show Daffy some love.

Thank you for mentioning organ donation. I think everyone should do it.

The Blue Zoo said...

I love that Daffy. And I hope that all our thoughtful posts will ease some of her loss.

I'll be your little sister. I'll steal your clothes, blame you for stuff, and tease you about being older than me!

Semi-Slacker Mom said...

Thanks for posting this. This is the 1st chance I've had to get on the computer & hadn't heard. I feel like I should make a peach cobbler to take to her.

Andrea (ace1028) said...

Sigh. I know. This sucks. There's no other response. I'm so sorry for your prince's loss, and yours, though not current. Life cut short too soon. It totally and royally sucks. {Hugs}

Shell said...

So beautifully put.

I'm crying like a baby.

Heather said...

My heart is breaking that Daffy lost her sister.

Leiah said...

Your words are so touching. Thank you for sharing them with all of us. And thank you for mentioning organ donation - I think you know how I feel about it. When I wrote my update this week about my Daddy, one of the facts I cited was organ donation can save the lives of 9 people. NINE people. What a tremendous gift.

Cassie said...

Nice post. My siblings are some of the most special people in my life and I can't imagine losing one. I'm an organ donor becauswe my father's life was saved by organ donation 3 years ago.

Erin said...

I always wanted a sister, too...but I can't imagine life without my brothers. ANd I'm so sorry for what happened to you guys. It's just not fair.

Daffy is doing well, considering. SHe is such a strong person. I envy that in her....

Chief said...

YOu are a sweetie!

Kimberly said...

This touched my heart.
I really enjoyed your blog and will definatly be following now. Grabbed your button for mine... feel free to stop by when you have time!
All the best,
Kim

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Trac~ said...

This was such a sad story and made me cry as well. P.S. Please check out my blog when you have the chance - I have something waiting for you. Happy Saturday! :o)

....Petty Witter said...

Saw your blog mentioned on Trac's site and thought I'd stop by to say hello.

Catherine said...

very touching....thanks for sharing.

Andrea said...

that is rough. I also lost my sister, to breast cancer a few years ago. i will visit her site.